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September 14th, 2012

Today is my dad’s 54th birthday. I thought it would be only fitting then to blog about him.

After the wedding, one of the main questions I got was, “What was your favorite moment of the wedding?” That’s like asking somebody what is their favorite meal or favorite book or favorite vacation. There were so many moments of that day that I play over & over again in my mind & moments I will cherish for the rest of my life, but I think that my favorite moment has to be the one which I can never think about without crying (due to happiness, of course) — even to this day months later. That would by leaps & bounds have to be the father daughter dance.

For those of you who are not of Asian decent, let me paint you a picture so you can understand where I am coming from. As a culture, Asians are not the touchy-feely lovey-dovey type. To us, love is there but it is unspoken. Therefore, I grew up in a family that wasn’t about all the hugs & kisses — like everytime we went somewhere or got out of the car for school. We just were not into that physical display of affection. But do not for one second take that as a negative. I never felt unloved. My parents’ actions spoke louder & truer than any of their words ever could. I just grew up in a different culture.

I never felt like daddy’s little girl, the way people use that term. I could possibly go out on a limb & say that my little sister would say the same thing. But we knew he loved us. & we loved him. From the moment I first heard this song as a young girl, I knew I wanted it played at my future wedding. So when marriage & a wedding finally came into the picture, I knew this would be the song played as my father & I danced for the first time together.

Even before the wedding day, every time I listened to this song & imagined the father-daughter dance, tears would just start appearing at the corners of my eyes. I was extremely nervous, but not for the reasons that you might’ve thought. If I couldn’t make it 10 seconds into this song without crying or think about dancing with my dad, how was I ever going to stay composed while actually dancing with him? I was going to be a hot mess on that dance floor, & the girl in me thought, “I cannot run off all of my makeup on my wedding day!!” But regardless, I was not going to miss this moment for the world. I knew if I did, I would regret it for the rest of my life.

The moment my first dance with my new husband ended & my dad walked up to take my hand, I leaned into him & let the song play as we moved together. Throughout the entire song, I couldn’t open my eyes. Tears were already flowing down my cheeks, & the moment I opened my eyes & actually looked at my dad I would — without any doubt in my mind — start ugly crying. So I just held on for dear life & took the opportunity to remember everything that happened in those few minutes. I wanted to say something to my dad. I wanted to whisper words of love & thankfulness. To tell him that I wouldn’t be here without him. That I married a man very similar to my dad & that he didn’t have to worry; I was in very good hands. At that moment, while dancing our first dance, I finally felt like my daddy’s little girl.

So here is our father & daughter dance song. Play it & listen to it as you scroll through the photos from the wedding day.

Afterwards, I was told by the photographers that they have never ever seen a room so quiet & focused on the father-daughter dance. They were amazed.

My very good childhood friend also told me that during the song, she remembered — when we were little — me telling her that this would be my song. She said when she thought about that, she started crying. This is a girl who I’ve probably only seen cry — like more than just tearing up — only once or twice in our lives together. That is not a lot.

To my wonderful father: Happy Birthday! I love you with all of my heart & am grateful for the example you have set in my life.


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